“I live life with no regrets.”
Bull.
I’ve always been one to respect and even attempt to live by such a cavalier notion. Just think of it: never regretting what’s happened, what went wrong or what you’ve said. But it’s simply impossible.
Even those of you who say you have no regrets must somewhere, deep-down, own a memory that you’d rather not. Guaranteed, you have, at some point, said something that would have gone over better unsaid.
So how do we come about saying that we want to live a life with no regrets?
I have two ideas:
First, we realize that life is here. Its ready for us and we should be ready for it. We should take it by the proverbial horns and live it as earnestly, honestly and zealously as we can. And this would be a philosophy commiserate with having no regrets; in other words, being unafraid of risks and consequences.
But I think that’s different than having no regrets. That’s living life to its cliche fullest. You can live an adventurous, robust life and still suffer from normal human pains. (tip: you will). And as such, you will come across moments that are most undoubtedly, regrettable.
So let’s divorce the concepts: carpe diem and “living with no regrets” are separate ideas.
The second thought then, is that some might say they regret nothing because even in mistakes and troubling memories, we can find lessons. It takes the grit to make us grow, right? I associate with that line of thinking.
But again, I don’t think that falls under the auspices of “living with no regrets.” Just because you’ve made lemonade of your lemons doesn’t mean that given the choice, you would choose the same course. I can think of countless times that I regret not having told someone something important. Or missed a deadline. Or overslept. Or lied.
These are things I regret. I have learned valuable lessons from them, but to simply whitewash them as pieces of my past that I don’t “regret” nearly defeats the point of the lesson.
It doesn’t matter if you know that 2 + 2 = 4 if you can’t remember why. (you’ll never make it algebra). The lesson is only as important as the mistake – the regret.
Therefore, live life with regrets! Relish in life’s mistakes and subsequent lessons.
Let me be clear: I don’t advocate watering down life. I’ve already said that past regrets are separate from future risks (although we do well to keep those lessons in mind…) And I further do not mean to continually mope around, harassing yourself over how dumb, mean or risky you’ve been.
In order to learn from mistakes, we must know the mistakes. If we live with no regrets, we’re bound to blur out those important moments when we figured out how to get back up.